"What would happen if you did?" When you have something to do, an action to take and you are hesitating, not sure of the best way to do it or whether to do it at all, ask yourself this question; “What would happen if you did?”
You need to change jobs, want to ask that guy out, find new friends… stop just coping and actually live?? And the things required to make the changes seem so big and scary.. so ask - What would happen if you did ?…. ( to whatever the required action was - ask the guy, apply for the job, take up that new hobby)
This question expanded my view of the world and of my world, and literally changed my life. I was not so stuck anymore. And I realized that I had been so focused on the problem that I had been unable to see anything else. I still had the fear but I also had the realization that it was 100% my responsibility,
I’m sure you can relate to those moments in life when we are really able to see something for what it is. It doesn’t have to happen through a big life-changing event. Sometimes a simple question is enough. “What would happen if I did?”
There are actually 4 ways of asking that question and each one gives you a different perspective and a way of getting out of yourself and looking at your question or issue more clearly;
“What would happen if you did?”
“What wouldn’t happen if you did?”
“What would happen if you didn’t?”
“What wouldn’t happen if you didn’t?”
When you now think of a problem or difficulties that come up in your life, you will be able come out the other side with more clarity and strength after running it through these questions.
When I asked myself these questions my own reactions and realizations come to the fore.. it’s not advice from people with their own agenda, it is my understanding of me and how it all works for me.
This was inspired by a blog that I read by Matthew McEwan