I find January can be an excellent time to take a moment to decide what I am going to let go of ... what actions or thought patterns have been unhelpful or downright damaging in my life over the past year. Time to take a breath, reflect and look forward. There is always something so cleansing in the feeling that we can start afresh.
Here are a few of the things I have decided to let go of, maybe they will resonate with you too?
- The thought that my challenges are long term
Sometimes there is a feeling that situations will go on forever, I need to remember that of course this is completely untrue. When I stop and look at my life just 3 years ago I wouldn’t have guessed at how different my world would be and how the changes I have been making in my understanding of myself have been well reflected in my life.
- Letting go the need to have it all sorted out right now
A constant challenge for me is to master the desire to “be there” and when I’m not in my imagined ideal situation I am impatient and sometimes even cranky about it. Note to self: Must remember to enjoy the ride!!!
- To stop asking why certain things are happening
Instead, ask what can I learn from each situation and how can I encourage more if it’s great or how/what I could change if it’s not working for me.
- Letting go of the thinking that I’m not where I’m “supposed “ to be
Remembering that, I am in fact, exactly where I need to be to learn the things that I need to, to move on to the next step.
- Attachment to outcome
Stop giving myself a hard time if things don’t evolve/ work out exactly as I think they should. Trusting that they are as they need to be.
- Let go of the need to be good at things that I’m not
If we were all good at everything no-one would shine. I don’t mean that this gives me an excuse to abdicate responsibility but rather to allow myself space and not have to be perfect.
Wishing you all a great year of growth and happiness.